Of my many responsibilities as a Kansas City Wedding DJ and Wedding Entertainment Director™, one is to assure that the pre-reception planning, an essential element of the creative process, addresses the timing and execution of every moment of the event. “No surprises!” is an important promise made to ensure the Bride & Groom’s happiness.
But, according to The Huffington Post (HuffPost), some couples may encounter unanticipated and uncomfortable conversations with a very small number of friends and family members who disagree with the way the Bride & Groom have planned their day…way before the big day has arrived. To keep those surprise occurrences from driving an unsuspecting couple crazy, therapist and HuffPost Weddings Etiquette & Advice contributor, Emily V. Gordon, offers advice that may be of value.
Ms. Gordon writes, “A lot of engaged couples find that instead of creating an event that will be important to them, they’re dodging through a minefield of modern etiquette traps.” She adds, “It’s hard to know how to handle a life event with so many expectations, so as a therapist, rather than an etiquette expert, let me present you with some of the most common reasons that your wedding will offend those around you, and what to do about it. “
Emily Gordon’s article, “The Most Popular Offenses in Wedding Planning, and How to Deal With Them,” explores five areas where a soon-to-be Bride & Grooms wedding plans could potentially offend guests and offers practical, polite solutions to each. They include:
- Not Inviting So-and-So – It’s almost guaranteed that you will offend SOMEONE by not inviting them.
- Alchohol – Some people think that alcohol is evil and don’t want it at a reception. Some people think it’s evil to go through a wedding reception without booze.
- How Religion Is Handled – This is the touchiest subject of all.
- Destination Weddings – You’re hit with people complaining that they want to come to your wedding, but they just can’t afford to do so.
- Registries – This offense can run the gamut from registering for household items, registering at stores too expensive for some guests, or setting up unconventional registries.
To consider Emily Gordon’s insight as to the best way to handle adverse reactions to any of the five offenses. Click “The Most Popular Offenses in Wedding Planning, and How to Deal With Them” to read the article in its entirety.
Granted, not every guest will take offense to any wedding day decision. As Ms. Gordon points out, most family & friends would consider it rude to question a Bride & Groom’s choices. But, if the need arises to handle a criticism or grievance, it is always wise to be well prepared and know how to delicately respond.
What do you think? Your thoughts & comments are always welcome.