A few weeks ago I shared the story of evacuating a wedding reception due to tornado warnings. You can read that article here.
The story of the tornado was about the no-nonsense importance of guest safety over everything else…especially when placed in context of the devastating Joplin tornado that hit the following day. Fortunately, there was little disappointment for that Bride & Groom since their wedding reception was allowed to continue after a very short pause in the fun.
But, unfortunately, another couple I worked with this summer was not as lucky to avoid disappointment. I’ve held back on telling their story in an effort to allow enough time to pass and to prevent them any embarrassment. And, although, I won’t be specific as to date, location or their names, the Bride and Groom have graciously allowed me to tell their story with the hope that it will help others.
It was a pleasant wedding day that got off to a great start. The wedding party was on time for their photographs prior to the ceremony and they all joined the “nearlyweds” for a trolley ride around Kansas City for location shots. There was little alcohol consumption along the way and everyone returned in plenty of time for the “I do’s.”
The ceremony came off without a hitch. The Bride & Groom, both known for being physically active, were happy and laughing and having a wonderful time with their guests and their friends who performed as officiates. All was right with the world.
The wedding venue “flipped” the room while the newlyweds socialized with their family and friends in another area. Both had little alcohol to drink and the mood was still very festive.
Once the guests were seated, the newlyweds and their wedding party were introduced and everyone sat down to dinner. A short time later I looked out from my DJ set-up area and saw that the Bride was no longer sitting at her table. No big thing.
As dinner was about to conclude, I went to the Groom and suggested that we find his Bride and move ahead with the wedding formalities. At that moment, he wasn’t really sure where she had gone, either. As we looked for her together, the venue manager stopped us outside the “bride’s room” and told us that the Bride was not feeling well and that we might want to give her a few more minutes. Again, no big thing, so I thought.
After a 15-20 minute delay, the Groom approached me and said that the Bride needed more time. We agreed that the dance floor should be open to the guests and we would get to the formalities when she was feeling better.
For the next 2 hours or so, the Groom came to me a number of times to say that they would do some, but not all of their formalities, reducing the number with every visit. In each instance, the Bride was not available. No worries. The guests stayed and continued to party…even though she had not been seen for most of the evening.
By 10:00 p.m. it was fairly evident that the Bride & Groom would not be participating in any of their wedding reception formalities. Surprisingly, the guests had not really noticed the Bride’s absence and the party went on.
Finally, at about 11:00 p.m., the newlyweds made their way into the ballroom. The Bride had traded her wedding gown for a pull over shirt and track shorts. They took a seat in chairs placed on the dance floor so they could participate in toasts delivered by the Best Man and Maid of Honor. Shortly after, they left the reception and their guest count began to dwindle.
The next day I learned that the Bride had suffered a sudden drop in blood sugar that was directly related to her not eating anything on the morning and early afternoon of the wedding day.
She also suffered an anxiety attack. Between her low blood sugar and anxiety (there is no proof that the 2 symptoms were related), she felt nauseous, light headed, anxious and was sweating. Her symptoms were described as flu-like.
But, unlike the flu, what happened to her could have been easily prevented.
The couple had a number of unforgettably fun wedding reception activities and formalities planned but didn’t get to enjoy any of them. How sad. But it prompted me to find out how other couples can avoid the same incredible disappointment. No Bride or Groom should ever miss the fun and memories of their Kansas City wedding day.
I took my question to a dietician and asked her to share her knowledge and advice. Here’s what she suggests:
As difficult as it may be on one’s wedding day, Brides and Grooms should never let their nerves fool them into thinking that they are not hungry. Even a boost in adrenaline can trick a brain into believing the stomach is “full.”
Combining protein and carbohydrates are the best bet to prevent an unexpected drop in blood sugar…not just for the Bride! The Groom is just as susceptible and should pay equal attention.
Those food items can include cheese, eggs, toast, yogurt, pasta, chicken or something as simple as crackers and peanut butter. They need not be consumed in large quantities and can be spread out through the day as light meals or snacks. Eating a half of a sandwich or a protein bar or 2 is still better than not eating anything at all.
It is also wise to avoid sugared drinks, candy, alcohol and salt. Water (make that lots of water) should be the drink of choice leading up to the wedding ceremony and reception.
I hope this Kansas City wedding lesson will, as the couple above stated, keep other Brides and Grooms from ever experiencing the same disappointment…especially when it can be so easily prevented.